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 Imagine a situation where two siblings have a misunderstanding—a fight. How would you, in the position of an uncle, one of the siblings, or just a neighbor, resolve this issue now? If both parties are at fault, will you ask the younger to accept all the blame and remain silent simply because he or she is younger than the other party? Or will you insist that one should be punished because between the two siblings, one is more financially capable than the other, hence the one with less financial strength should carry all the blame? I am vividly aware of an African tradition that tends to favor eldest children over others: “He or she is your elder; you ought to respect him or her no matter what he or she does.” This principle, in olden days, was considered acceptable and even necessary for maintaining family order. But looking at it closely, you can see a dangerous loophole: the younger must respect the eldest irrespective of the elder's actions. Even if the elder's behavior is ...

  One of the most uncomfortable truths about human sexuality is also one of the most important: sexual desire does not carry moral intelligence on its own . The sexual organs respond to stimulation, not to ethics, relationships, or sacred boundaries. They do not ask who the person is, what role they occupy in our lives, or whether the desire is right or wrong. They simply react. This is not a moral accusation; it is a biological reality. The moral responsibility lies not in the organs themselves, but in the mind, conscience, and discipline that must govern them. Sexual desire is powerful. It is automatic. And if left untamed, it does not stop itself. Many people mistakenly believe that sexual arousal only responds to what is “appropriate” or socially acceptable. This belief is dangerous because it assumes the body naturally respects boundaries. In reality, the body has no awareness of family ties, moral laws, or sacred relationships . Those boundaries exist in the mind, not in...

 Many churches today—well-dressed, well-spoken, and seemingly spiritual—have unknowingly fallen into a dangerous trap. They passionately identify who they believe their enemies are, often pointing fingers at people, groups, or religions, while missing a deeper and far more dangerous truth. Until a believer gains a solid and in-depth understanding of the Word of God, it is impossible to clearly discern who the real enemy is. The Bible tells us plainly in Ephesians 6:12: “For we wrestle not against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this world, against spiritual wickedness in high places.” Yet, many Christians still wrestle against flesh and blood—against neighbors, coworkers, family members, and strangers—while the true enemy operates quietly in the background. This is one of the enemy’s most subtle moves. People we often label as “enemies” are, in most cases, not enemies at all. They are merely tools—often unaware...

  January, the first month of the year, is a season of reflection and direction. It is a time when we ask ourselves important questions: What are my plans for this year? What do I intend to achieve? Where is my life headed? Do you have your plans written down, or are you hoping to drift into success by chance? Surely, repeating the same habits, the same decisions, and the same patterns from last year cannot be the desire of anyone who truly wants growth. Yet, the truth remains: if there is no clear plan, life often recycles itself. A new year without a new direction easily becomes a continuation of the old life. As believers, the beginning of a new year should not only mark a change in calendar, but a renewal of covenant—between us and God, and between us and our purpose. God is always ready to do a new thing, but He expects us to prepare ourselves to receive it. One of the most important questions we must ask ourselves is this: What attitudes, behaviors, and character traits d...

 There are times in our Christian journey when our own complaints become a barrier to the blessings God has already prepared for us. Often, we do certain things willingly and joyfully when they benefit us personally, without murmuring or hesitation. Yet, when we are called to extend the same grace, sacrifice, or patience to others, complaints suddenly arise. This attitude, though subtle, can hinder God’s work in our lives. The Bible repeatedly warns us about the danger of complaining. In Philippians 2:14, Scripture says, “Do all things without murmurings and disputings.” This instruction is not casual—it is deliberate. God understands that a complaining heart is rarely a trusting heart, and a heart that does not trust God cannot fully receive His blessings. Let us consider a simple but powerful illustration. There is a lady—let us call her Cynthia for clarity—who earns about ₦2,000 daily from a paid job, with some additional benefits attached. Each time she received her pay, s...

  Blessings That Cannot Be Reversed By Nasarah Peter Dashe Balak was the king of the Moabites, and when he heard that the Israelites — a people who had come out of Egypt — were moving through the land with great strength and victory, fear overtook him. Israel had defeated nations stronger than Moab, and their fame spread across kingdoms. Balak knew he could not defeat them physically, so he sought a spiritual strategy. He believed that if Israel could be cursed, then they would become weak and easy to conquer. This was why he sent for Balaam. Balaam was known as a man whose words carried spiritual weight. Balak said to him, “He whom thou blessest is blessed, and he whom thou cursest is cursed.” (Numbers 22:6). Balaam prepared altars and was ready to speak disaster over Israel, but the moment he opened his mouth, blessings came out instead of curses. God Himself took over his tongue. Balaam then declared, “How shall I curse whom God hath not cursed? Or how shall I defy whom the...

  Love: The Christ-Like Nature By Nasarah Peter Dashe Love is a strong, positive emotion — an expression of compassion, goodwill, and genuine concern toward people we cherish unconditionally . Jesus demonstrated this kind of love toward us. “While we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.” — Romans 5:8 This is the highest form of love. And just as He showed it to us, we are expected to show it to: our brethren in church, our family members, strangers, and even those who have not yet accepted Jesus. The Church of Old — A Model of Christ-like Love In Acts 2:44–47 , we see a powerful picture: Believers continued with one accord They broke bread together They sold their possessions They supported the needy They lived in unity and joy What manner of love is this? No wonder the people of old looked at them and said: “These are Christians — followers of Christ.” Why? Because they displayed the nature of Jesus , which is love. The Commandme...

  Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child: A Hidden Mystery in Parenting By Nasarah Peter Dashe There’s an old saying taken from the Bible: “Spare the rod and spoil the child.” Yet today, many parents — blinded by modern opinions — are unknowingly destroying their own children with over-pampering . We live in a generation where some parents equate discipline with wickedness . While trying to be “kind,” they fail to correct, and in the end, that is the true wickedness. A Tale of Two Daughters A woman was being interviewed one day. When asked if anyone lived in her home aside from her nuclear family, she smiled and said yes — her husband’s cousin’s daughter Amanda, aged 15. She explained that Amanda had been living with them for almost seven years, ever since her mother died in an accident. Meanwhile, she had her own daughter, now 12. The interviewer leaned in and asked: “So between Amanda and your daughter, who helps you most with house chores?” Without hesitation, she repli...

Stay Faithful to Your Spouse By Nasarah Peter Dashe In 2015, a woman shared her painful but powerful story — a story that teaches all married people one thing: when pride enters a marriage, the devil doesn’t need to knock before walking in. She had been a faithful wife to her husband for many years. But one year, Satan took advantage of her anger and ignorance, and her home nearly crumbled. A Fight That Opened the Door It all began early that year — sometime between February and March. A simple disagreement between her and her husband grew into a fierce argument. Words became weapons. Silence replaced laughter. Days turned to weeks, and they could hardly talk to each other again. Meanwhile, her husband’s company had just secured a huge international contract. They were sending selected workers abroad to handle it. The company gave clear instructions: “If you have a wife and children, take them with you. If you’re single, you may take your fiancée.” Her husband was among tho...

  Singles, Do What You Are Supposed to Do — the Marriage Will Come By Nasarah Peter Dashe Many young ladies and men today are desperately searching for life partners — but sadly, many are searching in the wrong direction. A wise man once said, “You can never fix a problem until you discover its root.” If we want to understand why so many struggle to marry or end up in broken relationships, we must go deeper than the surface. 1. The Lifestyle You Live While Single Matters Some ladies delay their own marriages without knowing it. The kind of life you live while single will either prepare you for marriage or push it farther away. Ask yourself: What kind of person am I when no one is watching? Many young women, out of pressure or desperation, make the mistake of giving their bodies to any man who promises marriage. But a wise lady keeps her dignity, because she knows that her value is not tied to a man’s approval. Any man who truly loves you will honor you, not rush you. The...

  Imagination : Another Tool the Devil Uses to Bring You Down By Nasarah Peter Dashe Imagination is one of the most powerful forces in human life — and one of the most subtle weapons the devil uses against the children of God. What Is Imagination? According to the Cambridge Dictionary , imagination is “the ability to form pictures or ideas in your mind of things that are new or not real.” Psychologists describe imagination as the mental process that combines what we have seen , heard , and experienced to create something new — whether good or bad. In simple terms, your imagination is a creative factory built inside your mind. It can build your dreams, or it can build your destruction — depending on who controls it. How Imagination Works When you want to create something, your mind gathers information about it. For instance, if you decide to design a car, you’ll collect details about cars — their parts, shapes, and functions — and then combine those ideas to form your own ...

  FEAR: The Devil’s Strongest Tool By Nasarah Peter Dashe Fear is one of the strongest tools Satan uses to bring down the children of God — often without their knowledge. What Is Fear? According to the Cambridge Dictionary , fear is “an unpleasant emotion or thought that you have when you are frightened or worried by something dangerous, painful, or bad that is happening or might happen.” Notice the phrase “might happen.” Fear often feeds on possibilities, not realities. It builds on our imagination of what could go wrong rather than what actually is. And Satan knows this — so he manipulates it. How Satan Uses Fear Against Believers The devil doesn’t need to attack you physically; all he needs is to plant fear in your heart. Once fear grows, faith begins to shrink. And when faith shrinks, victory fades. Let’s look at three major ways the enemy uses fear to control and weaken people: 1. Through Thoughts The mind is the battlefield of fear. Satan uses our past experiences...