Singles, Do What You Are Supposed to Do — the Marriage Will Come

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Singles, Do What You Are Supposed to Do — the Marriage Will Come

By Nasarah Peter Dashe

Many young ladies and men today are desperately searching for life partners — but sadly, many are searching in the wrong direction.

A wise man once said, “You can never fix a problem until you discover its root.” If we want to understand why so many struggle to marry or end up in broken relationships, we must go deeper than the surface.

1. The Lifestyle You Live While Single Matters

Some ladies delay their own marriages without knowing it. The kind of life you live while single will either prepare you for marriage or push it farther away.

Ask yourself: What kind of person am I when no one is watching?

Many young women, out of pressure or desperation, make the mistake of giving their bodies to any man who promises marriage. But a wise lady keeps her dignity, because she knows that her value is not tied to a man’s approval.

Any man who truly loves you will honor you, not rush you. The moment you give your body to a man who isn’t your husband, his respect for you often fades away — it’s natural.
That’s why the Bible says in 1 Corinthians 6:18, “Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body.”

Never open your legs to prove your love. If he cannot love you without sex, he doesn’t deserve you. Period.

2. A True Story of Self-Respect

There was a young man who dated a lady for two years. Throughout the relationship, he pressured her to sleep with him, but she refused. She stood firm and refused to go against her principles. One day, in anger, he tried to force himself on her — she fought back and kicked him away. That very day, they broke up.

At the time, the young man didn’t even love her — he just wanted to “taste” her. But years later, after marrying another woman who turned out to be unfaithful, he remembered that faithful lady. He realized how pure and disciplined she was and regretted letting her go.

He even recommended her to his friend, knowing she was a woman of integrity.

You see, she didn’t lose anything by keeping her standard. Even when she lost the man, she kept her dignity, and her reputation spoke for her long after.

Proverbs 31:10 says, “Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.”

3. Character Still Counts

Purity is not the only test of maturity — character matters too.

Some ladies have good morals but a bad attitude. A relationship cannot survive when the woman wants to dominate or insult her man. The Bible clearly says in Ephesians 5:23, “For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church.”

That doesn’t mean women are inferior — it simply means God has given the man the role of leadership. Every wise woman understands this and supports her man with humility and wisdom.

The same applies to men — don’t use authority as an excuse to control or abuse. Leadership in marriage means responsibility, not dictatorship.

4. God’s Will and Perfect Timing

Not every delay means denial. Sometimes God keeps you single not because you are unworthy, but because He’s still preparing the right person — or preparing you for them.

In Habakkuk 2:3, it says, “For the vision is yet for an appointed time... though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come.”

God’s timing is always perfect. Before He gives you the person, He wants to see if you can trust Him first.

5. Let Jesus Lead You in Choosing

Marriage is too serious to be decided by emotions or appearance alone. A man may appear gentle, loving, and even “God-fearing,” but only God knows the content of his heart. The same applies to women.

Many people have married beautifully dressed lies because they didn’t let God lead them. That’s why Proverbs 3:5–6 says:

“Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.”

Before you say yes to anyone, say yes to Jesus first. Let Him be the Lord of your heart — and the Lord of your decisions.

When you walk with God, you won’t fall for counterfeits, because His Spirit will expose every deception before it’s too late.

Final Thoughts

Dear singles, your season of singleness is not a curse — it’s preparation. Use it well. Build yourself in wisdom, discipline, and spiritual strength.

When you do what you’re supposed to do — live rightly, walk in purity, grow in purpose, and trust God’s timing — the right person will come effortlessly.

Don’t rush into marriage; rush into becoming the kind of person God can bless with a marriage.

In His time, He makes everything beautiful (Ecclesiastes 3:11).

So wait well, live right, and the marriage will come.

Written by Nasarah Peter Dashe
@Peternasarah / Peternasarah1 on all social media
© Bilongspan, 2025
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