Stay Faithful to Your Spouse

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Stay Faithful to Your Spouse

By Nasarah Peter Dashe

In 2015, a woman shared her painful but powerful story — a story that teaches all married people one thing: when pride enters a marriage, the devil doesn’t need to knock before walking in.

She had been a faithful wife to her husband for many years. But one year, Satan took advantage of her anger and ignorance, and her home nearly crumbled.

A Fight That Opened the Door

It all began early that year — sometime between February and March. A simple disagreement between her and her husband grew into a fierce argument. Words became weapons. Silence replaced laughter.

Days turned to weeks, and they could hardly talk to each other again.

Meanwhile, her husband’s company had just secured a huge international contract. They were sending selected workers abroad to handle it. The company gave clear instructions:

“If you have a wife and children, take them with you. If you’re single, you may take your fiancée.”

Her husband was among those selected. He returned home with excitement, telling his wife the good news — that she would travel with him. But still angry from their fight, she refused.

He pleaded, but she held onto her pride. “Let him go,” she thought. “I’ll be fine here.”

And so, he left.

Loneliness and the Return of an Old Flame

Two months passed. The house felt emptier each day. She began to miss her husband deeply — not just emotionally, but in every sense of marital companionship.

That was when she realized the truth: her pride had cost her peace.
As the saying goes, “You never know the value of a well until the water runs dry.”

She managed a small supermarket in her neighborhood. One day, as she opened her shop, an unexpected face walked in — her ex-boyfriend.

Her heart skipped. Memories she had buried long ago began to surface. She wanted to run into the back room to hide, but a voice whispered, “Don’t worry, you owe him nothing.”

But deep down, she knew the real reason she wanted to run — they had slept together several times in the past, before she got married. Though she had repented and cut him off, she knew how dangerous his presence could be.

Still, they exchanged greetings, talked about old times, and before he left, he asked for her phone number. “There’s no harm,” she thought — but that single mistake opened the door to disaster.

The Gradual Fall

Over the next few weeks, they began to talk often — long calls filled with nostalgia and laughter. He reminded her of how “happy” she used to be, and slowly, her emotional walls began to fall.

Every time the ex called, she lost her focus. Her heart became divided.

Meanwhile, her husband called from abroad, promising to return soon. She would tell him, “I miss you so much,” yet she was entertaining the very person who could destroy her home.

Temptation never starts as sin — it begins as a conversation.

One day, her ex visited her at home. She could have stopped him at the door, but she didn’t. Before she realized it, the worst had happened. She fell.

The Confession and Mercy

When her husband finally returned from his trip, guilt ate her from the inside. She confessed everything.

To her surprise, he didn’t shout or curse her. He simply said,

“I already knew the devil would try you. If God didn’t help you, I knew you would fall.”

Those words broke her completely. She realized her real mistake wasn’t just the affair — it was the pride, unforgiveness, and lack of self-control that opened the door in the first place.

Thank God, her husband chose forgiveness over revenge. Their marriage was restored, and today, she shares her story to warn others.

Lessons from Her Story

  1. Don’t let pride ruin your home.
    Pride is like a crack in the wall — small at first, but soon it brings the whole house down.
    “Pride goes before destruction, and a haughty spirit before a fall.” — Proverbs 16:18

  2. Forgive quickly.
    Don’t let anger last overnight. “Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry.” — Ephesians 4:26

  3. Set boundaries with the opposite sex.
    No matter how “innocent” it seems, don’t entertain old flames or private friendships that can lead to sin.

  4. Beware of loneliness.
    The devil attacks most when your heart feels empty. When you feel lonely, pray instead of chatting with temptation.

  5. Guard your mind and phone.
    One wrong message can undo years of faithfulness.

Final Thoughts

Marriage is not just about love — it’s about commitment, forgiveness, and wisdom.

Don’t let momentary anger destroy what took years to build. When issues arise, settle them quickly and prayerfully. The devil is always waiting for an opportunity to strike.

As 1 Peter 5:8 warns:

“Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil, as a roaring lion, walketh about, seeking whom he may devour.”

Learn from this woman’s story — let her fall be your warning.
No matter the fight, no matter the distance, stay faithful to your spouse.

Because at the end of the day, it’s not the devil who breaks most marriages — it’s pride, anger, and carelessness that give him room to work.

Written by Nasarah Peter Dashe
@Peternasarah / Peternasarah1 on all social media
© Bilongspan, 2025

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