Anger: The Silent Destroyer

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Anger: The Silent Destroyer

By Nasarah Peter Dashe

Anger is a natural emotion — but when left unchecked, it can become a force so destructive that it ruins both the carrier and the target. No one plans to destroy their life with anger, but many do — without noticing until it’s too late.

The Reality of Anger

Anger is like fire:
🔥 It can warm a house when controlled.
🔥 But the same fire, if unleashed, can burn that very house down.

Many people today are in prison, in debt, or far from friends and opportunities — not because they lacked destiny, but because they couldn’t control their anger.

Some marriages broke because someone lashed out in a moment they should’ve been silent.
Some relationships ended because someone spoke words they could never take back.

You can be right and still angry,
but anger can cost you more than the thing you were right about.

A Bible Warning

“Be ye angry, and sin not: let not the sun go down upon your wrath.” — Ephesians 4:26

The Bible does not condemn anger — it warns against staying angry. Why? Because anger grows. If you don’t release it, it will release destruction through you.

Anger cost Moses the Promised Land — not unbelief, not fear — but a single moment of rage.
He struck the rock God told him to speak to — and that one moment canceled 40 years of destiny.

Anger doesn’t just make you shout.
It can make you lose your future.

The Trick of the Devil

When the devil wants to destroy a man of destiny, he does not always offer sin directly — he provokes anger. Because anger has a way of making wise men act like fools.

When emotions rise high, discernment sinks low.

That’s why some regrets in life start with the words:

“I wasn’t myself…”
“I didn’t mean to say that…”
“I didn’t think before I acted…”

Yes — because anger blinds the mind before it harms the target.

Control Your Spirit

“He that hath no rule over his own spirit is like a city that is broken down, and without walls.”
— Proverbs 25:28

A city without walls is open to every kind of attack. That’s what a man who cannot control his emotions becomes — an open target.

The devil loves angry people — they don’t need demons to destroy them. Their own emotions do the job.

Final Lesson

Learn to silence anger before anger silences you.
Being angry is not a sin — but what you do when you’re angry becomes your judgment or your grace.

Pause before you speak.
Leave the room if you must.
Pray — even if your voice is shaking.

You’ll never regret holding back an angry response, but you may regret every one you let loose.

Written by Nasarah Peter Dashe

@Peternasarah / Peternasarah1 on all social media
© Bilongspan, 2025
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